Sometimes people come to therapy simply to explore themselves, but more often they come because something feels hard. Take a moment to notice for yourself what that thing is. What is it about your life that you’re wanting to be different? How do you feel and what do you do when this difficulty arises? Now see if it is possible to hold all of that with compassion and dignity, the way you might hold a tender child. No need to force anything, just notice, how much can you accept yourself, right now, as you are?


Acceptance does not mean inaction. If you’re looking for a therapist than you already have hope that things could be better, and you’re already mobilizing towards growth. Take a moment right now to solidify your desire. Imagine the future you are wanting for yourself. Let your mind fill in the details as if it is happening now. In this future, how are you feeling? How are you approaching the world? Notice, just for yourself, what it is that you are moving towards, and keep hold of this desire, whether it is dim or bright, clear or foggy. Let it light your path forward.


People come to see me with a variety of challenges and desires, and rarely are our lives so simple that we have only one, but here are a few of the common ones that people come to me with:


Close relationships offer a rich opportunity for connection and meaning in our lives, but they can also bring up a lot of vulnerability and challenge. I work with individuals who are going through transitions, such as breaking up or getting together, or who are wanting to shift the dynamics in their current relationships.


Occasional stress is an ordinary part of being human, but chronic anxiety is not. Consistent worrying can keep you up at night, cause you to withdraw from interaction, and seriously interfere with your life. Therapy can help you find ways to calm down and tackle the underlying causes of your anxiety.


Trauma is an experience that overwhelms our ability to understand and respond cohesively to what’s happening. It can shake our faith in ourselves and in the world, and can bring up strong feelings of fear, anger and confusion. Whether your trauma is old or recent, therapy can help you return to yourself, and regain clarity and strength.


This is a phrase I like to use for when something is off but it’s hard to tell what. Here at the edge of what you can clearly understand about yourself, is some of the richest territory for self discovery.